Sharing the truth - one fact at a time.

Since losing my son, grief has become a part of me – woven into the fabric of who I am. But do not confuse my grief with blindness to the truth. 

As Ralph Ellison wrote,

“There is power in truth. The truth is the light, and the light is truth.”

This is a fight for light in the darkness created by the Guam Police Department and those involved – a weight no parent should have to carry while grieving. 

I’ve followed every proper channel in search of answers and information, only to be met with closed doors and walls of avoidance. GPD chose a path shaped by assumptions and predetermined conclusions.

Time has passed quietly, but do not mistake my silence for acceptance. Because no matter how much time goes by, the truth remains unchanged. Unerased. Repeated speculations do not make them true. 

Despite asking about my son’s state of mind, GPD dismissed the most obvious truth – there was no evidence of suicidal intent. My son was living independently with a stable job while attending the Guam Community College, and he had a life defined by connection, stability, and forward momentum. He shared a close bond with his sister, maintained an active personal life, and had clear plans – including a visit with his grandmother the following day, applying for career-advancing jobs, and considering a condominium investment with me. He was physically fit, with no significant signs of his Crohn’s disease noted in the autopsy. His refrigerator was stocked with healthy food, and a delivery of vegan protein shake mix even arrived a week after he passed. His apartment was clean and organized, with laundry still in progress – clear signs of someone engaged in everyday life.

GPD’s premature, biased, and speculative determination serves a narrative – not the truth. 

They failed to test or verify information, neglected to secure the scene, and disregarded the protocols of a proper death investigation. They ignored a substantial body of evidence that points to a very different conclusion. 

I’ve come to learn that other families also have been left with unanswered questions, forced to accept inaction or flawed conclusions. I’m taking this step not just for my son but to push for change.

I’ve asked many times: If it were your child, what would you do? The reality is this: unless they are personally affected, few at GPD are willing to push for real answers.

In my upcoming blog posts, I’ll be sharing the facts surrounding my son’s death – a painful but necessary step. I never wanted to lay it all out like this, but at this moment, the facts are the path forward.

I’m not done speaking. Truth is the light.